Emotional Predators and How to Avoid Them
A look, a word, or even a simple insinuation can be enough to start a self-destructive process in somebody else. The acts that emotional predators carry out every day can at times even appear harmless.
The victims generally don’t let anybody in, and they suffer in silence. Through a process of emotional harassment or psychological abuse, an individual can cause someone else to break down.
Just like how in nature there are predators who hunt down and kill other animals for food, among humans you can find similar behavior, known as emotional harassment, undertaken by emotional predators onto their victims.
Emotional harassment and psychological abuse can happen in any environment, such as in a relationship, at work, within the family, or in a group of friends.
How does an emotional predator behave?
An emotional predator can be of any age, social status, culture, or gender. They can seem to be normal people, although they tend to be stingy, egocentric, and narcissists.
Their objective is the emotional, personal, psychological, and social break-down of their victims, and at worst, they have been known to make people choose to end their lives.
They are individuals who feel greatly inferior, although they don’t give off this impression, because they prefer to present themselves as arrogant and ostentatious. They are full of anger and regret, but they don’t really show it. They tend to have strong ideologies.
Emotional predators feel a need to be admired, wanted, and have strong anxieties about being right and feeling powerful. They show themselves as disconnected from emotions, sometimes even despising them, especially the emotions of their victims.
As children, emotional predators tend to be the kinds of children who throw stones and hit other people, the children who cause fights but aren’t involved in them. They want to be the center of attention. As teenagers, emotional predators are cold and distant, without much of a social life, except for one or two friends that they tend to manipulate. In adulthood, they are the people who are arrogant and preoccupied with being right.
At first sight, emotional predators seem controlled, sociable, and perfectly acceptable, but this behavior is a mask, behind which they hide their true intentions and mental processes, which are much more complicated and confusing.
Who are the victims of emotional predators?
The victims of emotional predators are generally characterized by their kindness, honesty, generosity, optimism, and spiritual strength. They are the people who show qualities that emotional predators want and envy, characteristics that they don’t actually have. Emotional predators will turn this person into a scapegoat, who they see as responsible for all of their problems.
An emotional predator watches out for this type of person, so that they can try to gain their energy and happiness. It’s said that emotional predators want to absorb that which they envy.
Victims can seem suspicious to other people, since when someone suffers emotional abuse by any means, there are people who believe that the victim is responsible, since people like to imagine or think that the victim is responsible or complicit, knowingly or otherwise, in the aggressions that they have to deal with.
Often, we hear it said that if a person is a victim, it is because they are weak or unable to fight back; but on the contrary, we can see that victims are often chosen because they have something more, something that their aggressor wants to take from them.
Victims can seem naïve or gullible, since they don’t want to imagine that the other person is a destructive force in their life, and they try to look for logical explanations. They try to rationalize it to themselves, to make it seem as if the other person is not an emotional predator. Victims try to be understanding or forgiving, because they love or admire the other person, or because they feel they have to help the other person as if they are the only one who can understand them. They start to feel like they have a mission to complete.
While an emotional predator is holding onto, and refusing to change their own emotional state, their victims try to change for them, trying to understand, consciously or subconsciously, their attacker, and not allowing themselves to question if their attacker is responsible.